Month: January 2023

If you find you’re looking for a Christian wife, what you’re really looking for is a SINGLE Christian woman. I hate to break it to you guys, but looking for a wife may put you in a difficult situation. If you are looking for a potential wife, I encourage you to get out there and just start making friends with other Christian singles.

As someone who has been on over 65 first dates in the last few years, I have a few secrets on where to find these Christian singles. But first, you must be willing to put yourself out there. I know, you wanna be the cool guy who doesn’t have to try to find a godly woman to date. But I just got one question for ya: If that’s your strategy, how’s it working for you? I mean seriously, when is the last time you’ve been on a date?

And another thing I gotta say: it is not desperate to put yourself out there! I get it, it’s awkward, it’s uncomfortable, but we really are all in the same boat. We’re all Christian singles who desire marriage and in order to do that, we have to date. We’re not desperate dangit!!!

So if you’re up for the challenge here are four ways you can find Christian singles:

1. Dating apps. I know, you hate to hear it, but I gotta talk about it. There are SO many Christian singles out there who are online and ready to date. My advice: give someone a chance you meet on an app. Take the pressure off and just see it as an opportunity to get to know another really cool person. Maybe it works out and maybe it doesn’t. And hey that’s okay!! Either way, you met another really awesome single and got to practice your dating skills. It really is that simple!
2. Talk to someone in public. I know I know, this is one can be scary, especially for all of the introverts out there. But you never know who you may bump into. I encourage you to practice this, even with people who you might not have any interest in. Spark up a conversation next time you are at the grocery store. When you visit your local coffee shop, try to have a small conversation with the barista or someone you meet there. The key for this one is practice, practice, practice. I promise you will begin to enjoy it after a while.
3. Taking part in your favorite activities. What’s your favorite hobby? Do you like to surf on the weekends, play volleyball or take your dog to the local dog park? Do you serve in your church community? Whatever hobbies you have, do more of them! And be open to the girls that are around you! And guys, be bold!! Start up a conversation with a girl you think is cute. It will be so much easier since you know you already share a similar interest with her!
4. COME TO AN IYKYK DATING MIXER. Okay this one I may be a little bit biased toward, but it works y’all! We have two couples who are recently engaged and another who is in a serious relationship. . .and thats just the ones we know of!! The IYKYK Christian Singles mixers are a place where we gather up to 150 Christian Singles – even ratios of guys & girls -to get to know one another in a fun and safe environment. Each event is at a different trendy venue, we provide snacks and drinks and we have so much FUN. Since it’s a mixer we play games that facilitate light conversations so you can feel out if there is chemistry or not, and if there is, we have a whole system we use to help you connect with the ladies! We call them flirty business cards 😉  We travel all over to different cities and in each place, we get to meet so many Christian Singles who are craving Christian community outside of their local church. A bonus to going to one of these events is you will not only find a potential date, but also you will make so many incredible friends. We get a ton of amazing testimonials from people who gain so much more than a date from this event all because they were willing to put themselves out there.

So there ya have it, dudes. These are just four ways you can meet an eligible-and-Godly single lady. In fact, if you put yourself out there in at least one of these ways, I bet you could have a date THIS WEEKEND.

And remember King, you are bold! You are worthy of love, and you have so much that you bring to a relationship. So get out there and don’t be afraid to approach a cute Christian girl next time you have the opportunity!

To find out when we’re coming to your city, go to iykykdatingmixers.com and fill out an intake form. In the meantime, make sure you’re also following us on Instagram and Tik Tok @iykyk.dating 

– Mel

Co-Founder & Owner of IYKYK Dating

As believers, we are called to honor God in all aspects of our lives, including our relationships. But in a world where the dating scene can be complex and confusing, it can be challenging to know how to navigate it as a Christian. In this blog post, we will explore some tips and advice for Christian singles seeking to honor God in their dating lives.

Keywords: Christian dating, modern dating, God, honor, relationships, values, boundaries, communication, community, purity, waiting for marriage, forgiveness, Ephesians 5:3, Colossians 3:14, 1 Thessalonians 4:3-4

1. Know your values and boundaries. As a Christian, it’s important to have a clear understanding of your values and boundaries, and to look for a partner who shares those values. This means knowing what is important to you, and being willing to stand firm in your convictions. It also means being open and honest about your expectations and desires in a relationship. Ephesians 5:3 says, “But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God’s holy people.” Colossians 3:14 adds, “And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.” By being clear about your values and boundaries, you can better ensure that you are entering into a relationship that is honoring to God.
2. Practice good communication. In any relationship, communication is key. This means being open and honest about your feelings, needs, and expectations, and being willing to listen to and consider the perspective of your partner. It also means being respectful and kind in your words and actions. 1 Thessalonians 4:3-4 says, “It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control your own body in a way that is holy and honorable.” By practicing good communication in your dating relationships,you can build trust and respect, and establish a strong foundation for a healthy relationship.

1. Seek community and support. Navigating the dating scene can be challenging, and it’s important to have a support system to lean on. This means finding a community of believers who can offer guidance, encouragement, and accountability. It can also be helpful to talk with a mentor or trusted friend about your dating experiences and decisions. By seeking community and support, you can gain perspective and wisdom as you navigate the world of modern dating as a Christian.
2. Practice purity. As believers, it’s important to practice purity in our dating relationships. This means abstaining from sexual activity outside of marriage, and honoring God with our bodies. It also means being mindful of other ways we might compromise our purity, such as by engaging in inappropriate or suggestive conversations or activities. By practicing purity, we can honor God and demonstrate our commitment to Him.
3. Consider waiting for marriage. While there is no one-size-fits-all approach to dating and relationships, some Christians choose to wait until marriage to engage in sexual activity. There are many benefits to waiting for marriage, including the opportunity to build a strong foundation of trust and commitment, and to avoid the emotional and physical consequences of premarital sex. If you are considering waiting for marriage, it can be helpful to have open and honest conversations with your partner about your expectations and desires.
4. Practice forgiveness. In any relationship, conflicts and misunderstandings are bound to occur. It’s important to remember that forgiveness is a key part of any healthy relationship, and to be willing to extend grace to your partner when they make mistakes. Colossians 3:13 says, “Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.” By practicing forgiveness in your dating relationships, you can build trust and deepen your bond with your partner.

In conclusion, navigating the world of modern dating as a Christian can be challenging, but it is also an opportunity to honor God and grow in your faith. By being clear about your values and boundaries, practicing good communication, seeking community and support, practicing purity, considering waiting for marriage, and practicing forgiveness, you can enter into dating relationships that are honoring to God and beneficial for your personal growth.

As believers, we are called to follow Jesus and imitate His character, including His love and self-control. But sometimes, we may struggle with negative emotions like anger and frustration. In this blog post, we will explore some biblical strategies for dealing with these emotions in a healthy and godly way.

Keywords: anger, frustration, Christian, self-control, love, Ephesians 4:26-27, James 1:19-20, Philippians 4:6-7, Colossians 3:13, Proverbs 16:32

1. Seek to understand the root cause of your emotions. Anger and frustration can be complex emotions, and it’s important to take time to understand the root cause of these feelings. Sometimes, our anger may be justified and based on a real offense or injustice. In these cases, it’s important to address the issue in a healthy and appropriate way. Other times, our anger may be fueled by deeper issues such as fear, insecurity, or unmet needs. By taking the time to understand the root cause of our emotions, we can better address the issue and find healthy ways to cope.
2. Practice self-control. As believers, we are called to practice self-control in all areas of our lives. This means being mindful of our thoughts, words, and actions, and seeking to honor God in all that we do. Ephesians 4:26-27 says, “Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger, and give no opportunity to the devil.” This passage reminds us that it’s important to deal with our anger in a timely manner, and not to let it fester and lead to sin. James 1:19-20 adds, “Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger; for the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God.” By practicing self-control, we can better manage our emotions and act in ways that are honoring to God.

1. Seek peace and contentment. In Philippians 4:6-7, we read, “Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” This passage reminds us that we can find peace and contentment in Christ, even in difficult circumstances. By seeking God’s presence and guidance through prayer, we can find a sense of calm and rest in Him.
2. Practice forgiveness. As believers, we are called to practice forgiveness, even when it is difficult. Colossians 3:13 says, “Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.” This passage reminds us that forgiveness is a key part of any healthy relationship, and that it is an essential part of our faith. By practicing forgiveness, we can let go of anger and bitterness, and find healing and reconciliation in our relationships.
3. Seek to resolve conflicts in a healthy and godly way. When conflicts arise, it’s important to seek to resolve them in a healthy and godly way. This may mean seeking the guidance of a trusted friend or mentor, or seeking mediation or counseling. Proverbs 16:32 says, “Better a patient man than a warrior, a man who controls his temper than one who takes a city.” This passage reminds us that it’s important to approach conflicts with patience and self-control, rather than reacting in anger. By seeking to resolve conflicts in a healthy and godly way, we can better manage our emotions and build strong, healthy relationships.

In conclusion, dealing with anger and frustration as a Christian can be challenging, but it is also an opportunity to grow in our faith and reflect the character of Jesus. By seeking to understand the root cause of our emotions, practicing self-control, seeking peace and contentment, practicing forgiveness, and seeking to resolve conflicts in a healthy and godly way, we can better manage our negative emotions and act in ways that are honoring to God. May we strive to imitate Jesus in all that we do, including how we deal with anger and frustration.

As believers, we are called to seek first the Kingdom of God and His righteousness (Matthew 6:33). But what does it mean to have a Kingdom mindset, and how can we cultivate this perspective in our daily lives? In this blog post, we will explore five ways to cultivate a Kingdom mindset in our daily lives, and how this mindset can shape our priorities, values, and actions.

Keywords: Kingdom mindset, Kingdom of God, righteousness, priorities, values, actions, biblical perspective, Christ-centered living, kingdom-minded prayer

1. Seek a biblical perspective. In order to have a Kingdom mindset, we need to understand what the Bible has to say about God’s perspective on the world. This means regularly reading and studying the Bible, and seeking to understand its teachings and apply them to our lives. By immersing ourselves in the Word, we can gain a better understanding of God’s character and priorities.
2. Practice Christ-centered living. Another way to cultivate a Kingdom mindset is by striving to live a Christ-centered life. This means making Jesus the center of our lives, and seeking to follow His example and teachings in all we do. It means living out the values of the Kingdom, such as love, compassion, and justice, and allowing these values to shape our actions and decisions. Practicing Christ-centered living involves aligning our hearts and minds with Jesus, and seeking to honor Him in all we do.

1. Focus on the things that matter most. Another key aspect of having a Kingdom mindset is focusing on the things that matter most. This means prioritizing our time and resources in a way that aligns with God’s priorities. It means seeking to use our gifts and abilities to serve God and others, and making a positive impact in the world. It also means recognizing that our time on earth is temporary, and seeking to invest in eternal things that will last beyond our earthly lives.
2. Practice kingdom-minded prayer. Another way to cultivate a Kingdom mindset is by praying in a way that aligns with God’s priorities. This means seeking to understand what God is doing in the world, and praying for His will to be done. It also means interceding for others, and praying for the needs of those around us. By praying in this way, we can become more attuned to God’s perspective and priorities.
3. Surround yourself with like-minded people. Finally, cultivating a Kingdom mindset can be aided by surrounding ourselves with like-minded people who also seek to follow Jesus and live according to His values. By being part of a community of believers who share our values and priorities, we can encourage and support one another in living out the Kingdom of God.

In conclusion, having a Kingdom mindset means seeing the world through the lens of the Kingdom of God, and aligning our priorities and values with those of God. It involves putting God’s priorities first, embracing His values and priorities, focusing on the things that matter most, and practicing kingdom-minded prayer. By cultivating a Kingdom mindset, we can better understand God’s perspective on the world, and live in a way that reflects His character and purposes. By following these five steps, we can take practical steps towards cultivating a Kingdom mindset in our daily lives.